If I decided to do a survey to find out what is the main problem of couples, the answers would fuse and it would be for some: a busy working life, a lack of communication or financial difficulties. The answers would vary significantly, especially in view of the differences of opinion between men and women. However, I am convinced that jealousy in the couple would be by far the most quoted answer by gentlemen and ladies alike. The vast majority of couples experience at least one crisis of jealousy that has consequences on their history.
This character trait is the ordeal of all people living a relationship. Indeed, the desire to own a person can become so powerful that it puts the couple in danger. Despite the desire to want to know the happiness of two, it is the sadness that takes over and then rhythm the daily lives of both partners.
You want to get out of this situation? Want to defeat your possessive side? Fight your love jealousy now! This will be the best choice to stabilize your relationship. It is also necessary to understand where jealousy comes from to fight it and before considering having a fulfilling married life.
Unhealthy jealousy: understanding one's origin is imperative
Consider that jealousy is a virus that spreads and needs to be treated quickly, how would a doctor do it to eradicate it? To better cope with it, he would first seek his source, that is, his origin, or rather where he came from to really know it, and even better understand it.
Take the same pattern to find out where your jealousy comes from. Indeed, it is necessary to know what is the source of the latter because it is only in this way that you will succeed in overcoming it.
Obviously we are all a little jealous or jealous in the depths of us and you should not worry if you feel one day this feeling. We need to know for sure, we all feel bad when our partner has affinities with someone else and it is unlikely to not feel jealousy once during the entire duration of A love relationship. Nevertheless, there is a limit not to exceed and especially in the manner of behaving with his half.
Love for a person is also manifested by a strong attachment and the desire to protect his couple at all costs. But sometimes, this desire to "protect his love" is too strong. In this article I do not speak about the little jealousy that can even be endearing but indeed of the sickly jealousy which has destroyed many couples so be careful to distinguish one from the other. Because yes, if the attachment and desire to preserve his couple is not wrong, however, prevent his partner to live is!
So you have to know how to limit your actions when you want preserve your couple.
The undersides of love jealousy!
There are of course a lot of reasons that explain the love jealousy and I am perfectly aware of it. If I chose to mention two today with you, it's simply because they are the main ones. If you want to know more about the other reasons behind the jealousy, feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this article and I will be happy to answer you.
a painful past
When a person who is too much of a choke of his / her partner is asked why he / she is doing so, it is often the same answer that is formulated: " I have been betrayed once I do not want it to happen again. "
It is true that having to suffer an infidelity puts totally in question the vision that one has of the couple and the way to behave with its half. It is subsequently impossible to give the same confidence and one therefore feels obliged to set limits and monitor the person we love. Nevertheless, you must be aware that your couple can not live like that.
Although I fully understand the fact that you want to protect the one you love, you do not have to model your new love story on the previous one. They are two very different people. Mistakes that may have been made in the past will not necessarily be made again. And above all, what do you blame your current partner? Do you really have reasons not to trust him to do so? It may be precisely your behavior that deteriorates your relationship instead of strengthening it.
lack of self-confidence
The morbid jealousy is not only explained by the behavior that may have had an ex but also by your attitude. You must know how to take responsibility and be aware of your behavior when you are at the origin of the conflict. Stifle her husband or choke on his wife for lack of self-confidence is not uncommon but it is one of the best ways to create distance and to push it to avoid you.
Your worst fear? lose it and that's why you do not accept the fact that he / she spends time away from you. But above all, you are afraid that your partner will find "better elsewhere". You do not trust yourself and so you consider others as competitors. You have fear of celibacy because you say that finding love will not be possible.
However, you must be able to feel good even when your companion or companion is not at your side. Sending sms or calling every ten minutes will not help you feel better and protect your relationship, on the contrary. If you want to fight against this phenomenon, I can accompany you either personally through personalized coaching, or through my writing, since I wrote a guide to say " stop jealousy in the couple ".
Putting an action plan in place to build self-esteem seems essential to me, you need to feel better about yourself to realize that the one with whom you share your life only sees through you. I therefore give you an appointment in the self-confidence section to read articles related to this more personal issue. Do not break your relationship because of this behavior so act now, your partner will reward you a hundredfold.
Your coach for to know where jealousy comes from